With teen boys in the house, ‘the girls’ need support | Sexcetera
Q: My husband doesn’t like it when I wear a T-shirt with no bra, even when I’m walking around inside my own house.
I feel like I should be comfortable, and one of the first things I do after work is take my bra off. I have large breasts, and I sweat a lot in the heat. But he thinks I shouldn’t walk around without a bra on in front of our sons. We each have a teenager.
The way I see it, since it’s my house, too, and I help pay the note, I can do what I want. What do you think?
Mia: It stinks that everyone else in your family can walk around bare-chested and you have to be harnessed up in a brassiere just to be considered decent. Males don’t have to wear jockstraps around the house.
Where’s the equity?
Now that I’ve got that rant out of the way, I ask, whatcha gonna do? Your husband’s not comfortable with your around-the-house appearance. Why not appease him by wearing a light-support sports bra so “the girls” don’t jiggle as you move around.
If you balk even at that, at least make sure your shirts aren’t too tight. Big, loose sweatshirts are your friend. You also don’t want them to be sheer.
Next, concentrate on getting those young men through school so they can get out of the house. Once they’re gone you can wear what you want _ even nothing at all.
Steve: Wearing a T-shirt and no bra? No. Bad idea. Wearing a sweatshirt or something baggy? That would be OK.
We also got this email from a reader disgusted by our advice to a woman whose boyfriend didn’t think he should use protection during oral sex:
Q: How about a nice story about Geno’s vs. Pat’s, or provolone vs. Cheez Whiz!? How did your story on mouth gonorrhea show up in Philly news? Yikes.
Mia: We’d rather risk grossing readers out to remind them to stay vigilant about protecting themselves. That’s better than our saying nothing and letting people think it’s OK to risk getting a throat STD.
Steve: The name of the column is “Sexcetera,” not “Cheesesteak.” Those who believe all sex must remain in the dark should avoid this column.
Steve is a 50-something married man who’s been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers.
This story was originally published June 14, 2016 at 5:17 PM with the headline "With teen boys in the house, ‘the girls’ need support | Sexcetera."