Q: Why won’t my wife have sex with me when I want to? She doesn’t like to have sex in the morning and that’s the only time I’m ready.
Mia: You may be raring to go at 5 a.m., but she may not be ready to deal with your morning breath before the sun rises. Male and female sex hormone levels rise and fall at different times of the day. With flexibility you can overcome that. But you need to be creative. If she wants sex at night but you’re too tired, try exercising after work to see if that gives you more energy. Or get going as soon as you’re home from work instead of waiting until 11 p.m. You can also think of it more as a weekend thing. You will be less rushed and that will give you time to greet your wife with a crystal goblet of mimosa instead of the usual unwashed-body thing.
Steve: Sex, both the timing and the style, must be a product of compromise for both partners to achieve maximum satisfaction.
Q: My daughter is heading to a state college this year and I’m worrying about how she’s going to deal with all of the male attention. She’s heavily endowed to the point that my wife has suggested breast-reduction surgery. My daughter is oblivious to how she appears. I keep thinking back to how it was when I was in school and want to know how to prepare her. What should I do?
Mia: Dude you sound as if you are worried that the sins of the father may be visited upon your daughter. Jokes aside, you need to talk to your daughter and tell her what you told us. Also remind her of what your values and expectations are when it comes sexual activity. Make sure she knows that she can seek your advice in any situation she encounters. Then, say a prayer and let her go.
Steve: Forget the breast reduction. It’s her body, not yours or your wife’s. If her mind is right, the body won’t be a problem.
Steve is a 50-something married man who’s been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers.