Q: I finally stayed over with the girl I’ve been seeing. We didn’t have sex but we did fool around, and I found out that she has small breasts. I’m totally turned off. The bra she wears makes it appear they are larger. I’ve been single a long time and hate to dump a good woman, but I’m not sure what else to do.
Steve: Think logically: Which will fill more of your time, her personality or her breasts? If you say, “her breasts,” then buy a mannequin.
Mia: Do her a favor and dump her! If she’s a “good woman” like you say, she doesn’t need to date a 12-year-old.
Q: My brother just got engaged! (Yay!) and his fiance asked me to be in the wedding (Double yay!), which is about 10 months away. I was hoping to invite a plus one (I am not seriously dating anyone ... yet! But I am the oldest in the family and everyone else has a significant other). I asked a close male friend who graciously agreed to go, and told my brother about it. But my brother said only married people or those in serious relationships would get a plus one to keep the guest list in control. I even offered to pay for my date. Shouldn’t I be able to bring a plus one since I am in the wedding party and because I am family (and the only single person!), or are my brother and his fiance correct? If I can’t bring a date, should I not be a bridesmaid? Thanks for your time and help!
Mia: Argh! I really hate how wedding guests try to make nuptials about themselves instead of the engaged couple. At my wedding, my single girlfriends went into a frenzy trying to find a plus one. And unlike you, they weren’t nice enough to offer to pay. I wish they could have been secure enough to just focus on our celebration instead of getting so worked up over their own single status.
If you really want to be a great sister, dedicate the day to your brother and his bride. There are going to be plenty of ways you can pitch in to make things go smoothly. Focus on that instead.
Steve: Mia’s right. The people paying for the wedding are the ones who should decide. Think of it this way, you may find the romance of your life because of this wedding (some of those couples have single friends, right?), and that won’t happen if you have a date.
Steve is a 50-something married man who’s been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers.