My kids have reached ages and sizes that make it legal for them to ride in the front seat of the car.
They love their new found power, so much so they began to argue and fight over which one would get to sit in the front while we were leaving church.
How did I solve the conflict? I told each of them to get into the backseat and to not think about riding up front again until they could solve their differences.
And they did. They haven’t fought over it since. Is that evidence of liberal or conservative parenting?
I just call it age appropriate parenting.
My kids are at an age at which they need to be taking on greater responsibility for their actions. Had I given them a choice like that years earlier, they would not have been equipped to handle it well.
A young parent wrote in the Washington Post about a similar parenting lesson. She said a liberal style of parenting had initial led her astray.
But does this really have to do with liberalism, or just bad, short-sighted, ill-fitting parenting:
One poignant instance illustrates this perfectly. My daughter wanted me to buy her candy but had not behaved well enough to warrant an extra treat.
“Mom,” my daughter said, “people without money need help, and people with money need to help them.”
“Yes, that’s right,” I said.
“Well, I don’t have money, and you do, so you need to help me and buy this.”
A perfectly well-reasoned, thought-out argument.
When the answer was still no, she tantrumed and screamed, and I had to drag her out of the store. She did what I’d taught her; she still didn’t get what she wanted. I didn’t get what I wanted. Everyone was unhappy.