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Dear Advice Diva:
I'm a hopeless romantic, especially on anniversaries and Valentine's Day. I just wished my boyfriend was the same way or at least could appreciate the way I am. I have been dropping hints and trying to get him in the mood for Valentine's Day for months! What do I want? For him to, for once in his life, plan a romantic night. Like, he could buy me flowers and make dinner reservations. I would even be fine with a cheesy card, but I always have to remind him. Am I with the right guy?
Dear Hopeless Romantic:
In our experience, hinting to a man about anything is about as effective as telling your cat not to pee on a shag rug. It's just not going to happen. Men appreciate directness. Not as magical or romantic, no doubt, but the idea is that once they know what you expect you won't have to scheme and plot every year.
Instead of dropping vague hints that won't even register in his subconscious, tell him that you would love it if this (Valentine's Day, anniversary, whatever) he would plan a terribly romantic night for the two of you. Periodically say how excited you are, or that you bought a new dress for the occasion, just to keep him on his toes. And then see what he delivers.
With proper prompting, he can be your Mr. Right, provided he cares enough. It's all in the desire.
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