Dear Advice Diva:
My boyfriend and I have been together for four months and he finally asked me to meet his parents. The only problem is, he wants me to meet them on New Year's Day for brunch and my family always has a huge party where we invite all our friends. I am willing to see them later in the day, but I'm not too thrilled about it. I don't want to have to spend the whole day mentally preparing to meet them, then making sure I'm running on time, etc. But should I let my boyfriend down? There has to be a way to make everyone happy, including myself. How do I tell my boyfriend that I want to be with my family when I have been hoping for months to meet his parents?
Torn in Two
Dear Torn in Two:
You worry too much, missy. If you have family plans on New Year's Day and invite everyone you know, why not include the boyfriend and his parents? If you'd rather not add another layer of duty to your holiday stress enchilada, see if they have time for a pre-dinner New Year's Eve drink. Offer to stop by their home, and bring a bottle of well-chilled bubbly and a few gourmet nibbles (preparing a festive basket will score you huge New Girlfriend points). Limit your intake to one glass, compliment their son profusely, avoid the topics of religion, politics, babies and weddings, and you should be just fine. Oh, and you may want to rethink that micro-mini and your Goth girl eye makeup; wear something sensible and slip into your party wear afterwards.
I have a friend at work who loves to match everything to a T. If she is wearing a purple dress then she has to wear purple shoes, belt, handbag and accessories. Sometimes too much coordination can make her look like a piece of fruit.
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