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With new love, best friend goes MIA

Dear Advice Diva:

I have been friends with Tricia since we were both in the fourth grade and she has the same pattern every time she gets a new boyfriend. Since I've known her, she's been in three major relationships and EVERY time, she drops all her friends to be with him. At first I was OK with it, but over the years everyone -- including me -- is getting sick of her selfish ways.

What should I do? Should I be losing sleep over somebody who doesn't seem to care about our friendship?

Ignored Friend

Dear Ignored Friend,

In the beginning of a relationship it's almost expected for the involved friend to be missing in action. But when the honeymoon period winds down and Girlfriend is still unavailable, it's a matter of priorities. And just because she'd rather be with him doesn't mean you need to let yourself be ignored until she comes around.

Are you miffed because she's blown you off, yet again? Do you miss her? Do you find that she regards you as a friend of convenience and she doesn't meet your qualifications for BFF material anymore? Whatever you feel, own up to it and honor yourself. She's certainly not losing any sleep over you.


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