My husband feels we have the love and resources to provide Whitney with a good life. I respect the fact that he feels this way, but I work full time. I am also in my mid-40s and already feel overwhelmed being the parent of one child. I enjoy my current lifestyle and being able to travel some. Although we will be fine financially, our lifestyle would be greatly impaired.
My husband says I’m selfish for not wanting to share my good fortune. He may be right, but I feel that if I’m talked into taking her, I’ll be unhappy and resentful. Please advise. – Only Wants One
Since my retirement, I can no longer do the thing I loved best: teach biology. However, I am keeping my commitment to staying young. Last summer I bicycled 500 miles across Kansas. I do nine hours of dance exercise and aerobics a week, paint with oils, do photography and am starting to relearn the guitar. I may be in the early stages of Parkinson’s disease, so I want to do everything I didn’t get to do when I was younger while I still can.
I think too many people are busy being old. Most of my former classmates and friends have died. Many younger people can’t do what I do. Some of them tell me I should “act my age” and “learn to be old.” But what I’m doing keeps me young, and if I look silly doing it, so be it. I feel more fit now than when I was 21. If I die in an aerobics class it will be a lot better than doing it slumped in a chair. What are your thoughts on this? – Living Well In Wichita
You have been blessed with health, vitality and an inquiring mind. Life is too short to waste a second of it. When you’re old and infirm you will know it, so don’t let anyone rush you.