Q: I’m not in love with my husband anymore, but we stay together for our two young children. I’ve become extremely attracted to a co-worker, and fantasize about him nonstop. We’ve made out a few times after he’s driven me to my car. My husband is older and doesn’t get many erections anymore, so our sex life is nonexistent. The guy at work is younger and voracious. I’m thinking about telling my husband so at least he will know I’m considering moving on. I’m too young to be in a sexless marriage. The only thing stopping me is my kids, who really love their dad.
Steve: You’re having two idiotic thoughts:
1. One of Steve & Mia’s rules is NOT to get involved romantically with someone you work with directly. That avoids the risk of your romantic life and your work life being ruined at same time.
2. When you had children, did you not understand that being their parent was your first duty? You figure you could just dump ‘em if you want a new romance? Speaking of being dumped, you think a young man would want a serious relationship with a married older woman who has two kids? If so, you’re three for three in idiocy.
Mia: You say you and your husband stay together just for the children. Does he have any idea of this? Sounds like it’s just you who’s got the itch to wander. If you truly don’t love your husband anymore, don’t stay married just for the kids. An unhappy home is not a healthy place to raise children.
Steve is a 50-something married man who’s been around the block. Mia is a younger, recently married woman with an all-together different attitude. They may not agree, but they have plenty of answers.